Dear Pastor,
I am a 28-year-old female who just recently got a divorce. The problem that I'm having is that I've been in a relationship with a man for the past four years, but he is married. We really love each other a lot and we are planning on being together. He tells me that he is not in love with his wife any more and I believe him because we are always together and we do a lot of things together. He constantly tells me that he loves me and that I'm the woman for him. I'm a little confused on what to do. I love him dearly and I want to be with him also. I feel as if he's my soul mate and I want him in my life.
What should I do? Please, pastor, I really need your advice on what to do.
S.J., Clarendon, Jamaica
Dear S.J.,
A promise is a comfort to a fool. You are divorced and you have been going with this man for four years. He has not applied for his divorce, but you would love to have him permanently. He tells you that you are the woman for him and you believe him. He spends much time with you, so you think that everything he tells you is true. One of these days he may come back and tell you that he has made up with his wife.
Truth
What I am trying to say is this. This man may or may not be telling the truth, so it would be better for you not to put your confidence in everything he says. Some married men are able to spend many hours with other women and their wives don't question them about it. In fact the wives say that wherever they roam, they must come home. So don't fool yourself in believing that all is well in this relationship because the man spends lots of time with you.
Why don't you ask him when he plans to get a divorce? See what he would tell you. If he tells you that he is working out some plans, you know those plans will take years to come through and you will get older and older waiting. Don't believe everything a man says.
Pastor
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