Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am in love with a girl and she is in love with me. But her babyfather locks her up in the house and stopped us from seeing each other. She wants to get out of the relationship, but he threatened to kill both of us if she even looks at me again. She doesn't have anywhere to go. She has no family members or anything like that. She can't even go to the cops because if she does that, he will put her out or kill her. I have nowhere to accommodate her at this time as I am living with family members.

Pastor, we really want to be together. What should we do?

M.J., Mandeville, Jamaica

Dear M.J.,

Are you trying to tell me that this girl is under house arrest? Doesn't she have a cellphone that she can call for help? If she is afraid to leave the house, she can call the police and call others for help. And when he is not there, she can leave. She can find an old lady who could take care of the child while she works as a helper. The baby can be left at a day care centre while she works at a store, etc.

How did you get involved with this woman if she is not allowed to leave the house? I hope that you are not going to visit her at the man's house. Too many of you guys do crazy things. Please use common sense. Are you sure this girl loves you? Would it not be better for you to find a girl who is free? Why set up yourself?

Pastor