Dear Pastor,

It is very commendable that God has put a man like you in this world to address and solve the problems of those who are in need of sound advice. I have a problem. I have been with a man for six years and just recently we got married. He says he loves me but he is a liar and a big dirty cheat.

I don't know what to do because we just got married. It is just now that all is being revealed to me. I get phone calls from strange women, who tell me that my husband just left their homes. I also got a visit from one who told me she intended to take my place within my home. She plainly asked me when I would be leaving. I confronted him and he said that it is a lie and that he does not know the girl. She also told me that she has had numerous miscarriages for him.

I could leave him but we share a child together. It will be difficult to move out on my own with my young child. But I cannot stand him and the lying anymore. I feel like I could kill him.

What should I do, pastor? Please pray for me.

S,L., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear S.L.,

If it is only now that you are finding out that this man is a big liar, he has played his card very well. You know now that he is not speaking the truth. However, I would suggest that you try to save your marriage. Both of you should make an appointment and go to see a family counsellor. In the mean time, when you are having sex with him, insist that he uses a condom.

Pastor