Dear Pastor,

I met a married man in Kingston. He is sweet, honest and loving. He supports me financially as well as emotionally and I think I am falling for him. The problem is that I am in a relationship of five years with a man who refuses to do 'any and any' work. Right now, he is not working and I need help to go to school and start my house. I know he loves me, but that is not what I need right now. This married man said he is not in any business with his wife and he likes me very much. I don't believe him, and I don't want to mash up his life. I don't know what to do.

Please, help me, Pastor.

T.S., St James, Jamaica

Dear T.S.,

You have started to go to bed with this married man. You don't believe that he is speaking the truth about his wife, but you need financial help and he provides that for you. Your boyfriend of five years is behaving as a 'bum' and he is not assisting you. However, the relationship with the married man is not healthy. Therefore, you should seek a job and try to meet your financial obligations and end the relationship with this married man.

Pastor