Since I have a business place in Mandeville, I am hardly in the parish and she hardly sees me and she gets upset easily whenever I call. She keeps on telling me that I have a woman in the parish of Manchester but I don't. I really love this girl so I decided to invite her to an all-inclusive hotel. I rented a car and told her that I would pick her up. She said that her uncle would get upset and stop her from working because her uncle knows about us. I was really upset, but that did not stop my love for her.

She was graduating and she told me the cost for her ring, gown, and graduation fee and pastor, I did a wire transfer and sent US$450 to her account and she only called to say "Thank you, I am busy, so I will call you back." She did not call back. I had to call her.

Pastor, I really, really love this girl and I don't know what to do. I am supposed to leave next month and I want to ask her if I can take her up with me or leave her in my businessplace in Mandeville, but I am confused. I am 40 and she is 23 years old.

BS, Westmoreland, Jamaica

Dear B. S.,

Why don't you learn to keep quiet? Why are you trying to destroy this girl's life? You said you are happily married, so why are you trying to screw up this girl's mind? You have been sending her money. I am sure she is happy to receive any amount you send. If she wanted to spend time with you, she could have, but she is smart and so she made excuses. No uncle could have stopped her if she wanted to give you her body, but she is more intelligent than you.

She was in need of certain things for graduation and she asked you. And you sent her the money. Get it into your head, you are a grown man. This girl doesn't want you. So all this foolishness about taking her to England or leaving her in Jamaica to run your business is nonsensical. You will need the money that you are wasting on this girl. Take it from me.