Dear Pastor,

I met a guy about two weeks ago. He is everything a girl is looking for in a man. He is so sweet. He cooks, cleans and says things that makes me like him even more. He also gives me half of his pay every week. The problem is one night, my friend came over so I could do her hair. So I went to take a bath before I got started. My friend was in the bathroom removing the hair that was glued to her head. I came out of the shower naked, dried myself off and went in my room to get dressed. The guy came in the room and said he is going home.

I asked him why and he told me that I must figure it out.

As he went through the door, he called me and started accusing me of being a lesbian because I walked naked in front of my friend. Then he called me again saying that he wanted his money and ring back. I agreed to return his money, but I kept $100 because I didn't want to leave myself broke.

He became angry and demanded his $100, so I told him to come for his money because all this aggravation wasn't worth $100. Afterwards, he called to apologise andbegged my forgiveness. I felt sorry for him and I said yes. I told my friend and she told me I made a big mistake. I told my mother and she said I should leave him alone. I listened to my mom, but he keeps calling me and now I'm thinking about him. He was in jail for 10 years and he is very jealous.

Pastor, what do you think?

NJ, New York, USA

Dear NJ,

You better learn to toughen up. This is not a very good man and you should never take him back. Tell him to get lost, you will survive without him. Follow your mom's advice.

Pastor