Dear Pastor,
I have a big problem. I was involved with someone who would abuse me verbally and physically.
For some reason I based my relationship on love until I had a child for him. We broke up. Normally I wouldn't be able to go places without him being there.
I was trapped in a relationship mostly because he said he would kill me if I broke it off. My problem is that I started working at a security company and I started dating the director there because through my time he was there to comfort me. I know you're going to say it's wrong, but I do care about him.
Can't stop myself
The thing is that I have fallen for someone younger than him and who is better in bed and both men are involved. But I can't stop myself from having sex with them.
Maybe it's because I can't get over my first love. I wouldn't normally do it but my standard that I have set has just broken done. All of a sudden I started to drink a lot and when I get drunk, I just go mad.
Pastor, I really want some advice.
S. W., St. Mary, Jamaica
Dear S. W.,
You know what is right and what is wrong. You even dare to tell me what I would say. Do what is right and you will be safe. It is not love, it is just sex. And both of these men have their women. One of these days they may meet at your home and there will be a big fight or one of them may beat you up. So find a man who is free and drop the both of them.
Pastor
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