Dear Pastor,
I used to go out with a guy when I was in high school. I left the country in 2002 after knowing him for a year. We kept in touch and fell in love with each other. It's more like we grew to love each other.
Got closer
In 2005, I came back to Jamaica and realised my feelings for him had become much stronger, but knew I was going to leave soon. While I was there, he had to be at work every day, but he came to see me after work and we both knew we loved each other. We were also sexually active then.
When I left, we still used to talk to each other a lot because we would use each other for comfort. So, every time he was going through something, he would call me and vice versa.
In 2006, I got baptised, but I didn't tell him because I hadn't planned it. I went to someone else's baptism and the Lord took what was His, my soul. Now I'm a Christian and when I told him, he didn't say anything. I went to Jamaica later in the year again. We used to see each other often, but things had to change.
Afraid to commit
You can tell he still loves me, but he is afraid to commit and that's what I wanted. We keep in touch all the time, but I'm trying to move on, but I can't. It is hard. I keep looking for things in him, in everyone I meet, then I stopped, but then it would start again.
What do I do? Do I talk to my pastor about it? I talked to God, but I probably got the answer but didn't hear it.
LC
Dear LC,
You say this man will not commit. He's probably not ready to get married. However, if he truly loves you, he could ask you to wait until a particular time, etc. If he is not willing to assure you that he would marry you, put this matter in God's hand and move on. Whatever you did with him, God will take care of that. You will meet a man, in God's own time, who loves you and who will care for you. It may take a while, but if it is God's will for you to get married, He will bring a good man to you.
Pastor
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