Dear Pastor,
I am in my early 20s and have been in a relationship for three years. My boyfriend is a pretty decent person and I really love him. I picture him being the one I will marry. He is not just my boyfriend, he is my best friend. We were friends before he became my boyfriend, but lately I don't feel that way. He has lied to me before. He has never slept with another woman since we've been together or so he says. To be honest, I don't believe he has slept with other women, but I think he may have been flirting and might have kissed other women.
Snooping
Every time I feel he is doing something wrong, I usually find out he has. Lately, I am thinking about breaking up with him because I feel he is up to something. He has hurt me before by lying and I don't believe I trust him fully again. I have forgiven him because it's the right thing to do, but I have not forgotten and it bothers me. I think it is unfair to be in a relationship with someone you can't trust or who can't trust you. I don't want to break up, but lately that's all I can think about. I do not want to make a mistake over a feeling. You might say we should talk, but that's the problem, I will hesitate since as he has lied to my face before.
SS, Kingston, Jamaica
Dear SS,
You are childish. You said you don't believe this man has cheated, but at the same time, you believe he is doing wrong. What are you talking about? You don't feel this man is behaving, but you haven't said anything about yourself. Is it that you are misbehaving and judging this man on your standard? I suggest that you both go and see a family counsellor.
Pastor
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