Dear Pastor,

I have a problem and I hope you can give me some good advice about what to do. I have a son with a guy whom I love so much, but we have a big problem. His mother is always in our business. She can tell when we have sex and when we don't. If I leave to go anywhere, she would call her son and tell him that I am gone to look man when she doesn't know where I went. These things caused him to tell me it's over between us which I didn't want, but it happened.

Anyway, I went to visit my mother in another country where I met another guy. He really loves me. We started dating and recently he asked me to marry him. I told him that I have to think about it. I told him that because I still love my baby father. I do love this guy, but I don't know what to do.

Pastor, please, I need your help please.

K. K., Clarendon, Jamaica

Dear K.K.,

Your child's father in the ass, and he is not going to change. He will always be listening to his mother. Therefore; if you truly love the guy you met and you are convinced that he loves you, and both of you can have a future together, accept his proposal, go for pre-marital counselling and marry him.