Dear Pastor,
I am so upset with myself about something I have done. You see, my sister has a boyfriend who comes over to our house often. He is a nice guy and everything. He looks out for my sister who I love dearly and would never do anything to hurt her.
One day my sister's boyfriend and I were in my room alone. We were just talking at first, but then he came on to me and we had sex. I did not want it to happen because I know how much my sister loves him. She tells him everything.
More than once
The worst part is that it happened more than once. I tried not to let it happen but I can't seem to control myself. I gave my virginity to this man, who doesn't love me. This is the worst thing I have ever done. I am so messed up.
Pastor, what should I do? Tell me, please.
R.W., St. Catherine, Jamaica
Dear R.W.,
Why were you so naive? What was this man doing in your room? You see, this man had his eyes on you for a long time. He wanted to have sex with you and he was just waiting for the opportunity. He was pretending to be nice but in his heart he is not.
I am sure he told you how sweet you are and when he came back I am sure he told that you that he can't stay away from you. You don't understand how cunning some men can be. You have let down yourself and you will always remember that this man took your virginity. Now he is laughing at you and considering himself clever.
Pastor
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