Dear Pastor,

I'm having a big problem. I have a little boy who is nine months old and who has two dads, but one of them doesn't know the child isn't his. I know who the dad is. It's the one who the baby has his last name. I need to let the other know that the child isn't his, but I'm too scared to tell him. I don't want to hurt his feelings because he was longing for a child, but it just wasn't happening and I got bowled by the other fellow. The baby is in Jamaica with the one who thinks the baby is his. The real dad doesn't know about the child.

Pastor, please tell me how to go about settling the problem.

S. D., USA

Dear S. D.,

Stop playing the fool. Take back your child and stop fooling the man. You know the truth, why fool the man? It is wrong to have your child living with a man and giving him the impression that he is the father of the child. The child should grow up knowing who is his biological dad.

You are having unprotected sex with two men, but you know the truth. So, do what is right.

If it is money you are getting from the man with whom the child is staying, remember that you have a conscience and that money wouldn't be sweet. I repeat, do what is right. Take the child and then call the man and tell him that you were 'bowled' over by another man.

Pastor