Dear Pastor,

I have been with a man for 12 years. I have two boys with him and I'm also raising his two oldest daughters. This man did me wrong for all these years. I just found out that he conceived a baby with an American woman. The woman saw me in a store and troubled me. When she troubled me I pulled out a knife to stab her, but someone stopped me. She began to say "keep your man at home, he is always at my house when you are at work. He spends quality time with our 13 months old son."

I came home and asked him about the baby and he told me that the child is his son. I asked him why didn't he come to me and tell me about the baby and he said because he knows am I a mad woman. I'm the bread winner in the family because he doesn't work. I pay all the bills. I'm 33 years old and he is 47. This man is stepping all over me, but I love him.

Pastor, why am I so foolish. I am desperate for guidance.

Fool in love, California, USA

Dear Fool in love,

Don't complain at all if you love this unemployed man and is quite willing to support him. The Bible says, "If a man will not work, he should not work." You should not feed a lazy man or make him comfortable. He should go out and work.

Pastor