Dear Pastor,
I'm dating a pastor from the USA. I met him while I was there three years ago. He was married for 33 years and his wife died. I met him a year after his wife died. We have been good friends and only see each other at conferences, maybe twice per year.
Complains about money
In April of this year, we started dating. He came twice to visit me. He treats me well. However, there's something I don't like about him. He complains about money, especially if I mention about my daughter's school expenses, he starts complaining about his expenses.
I've never asked for anything, but he promised to help me buy a car when we met. Now that I'm ready, he has backed out. Whenever I mention it, he changes the subject. He compares my job with his, even though he owns his own business and works three to four jobs a day fixing air conditioners.
Rent a car
He's coming here again to preach within a couple of weeks and will be away from my parish. He wants me to rent a car to come see him. I told him I don't have money to do so, so he's disappointed.
We were discussing marriage sometime ago, and I mentioned that he need to change his bedroom set that he shared with his wife and he asked me if I have any idea how much it cost them.
This is the only issue I have with him, but I wonder if I can live with it. Sometimes I feel like telling him goodbye, but deep down I still feel that I should give hima chance.
A.J., St James, Jamaica
Dear A. J.,
I hear you, but I am going to say something to you. And never forget it. Never marry a mean man. I don't care whether he is a pastor or a lawyer. If he is mean you are going to have problems with him.
This pastor you met, offered to assist you to buy a car, he should keep his promise. And if you are going to be his wife, he should be happy to assist you in paying your daughter's school fees. After all, she is going to become his stepdaughter. And please insist hat the bedroom furniture be changed. I wish both of you well.
Pastor
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