He does not do very much to help me with her. I listen to him say he loves his child all the time, but he barely picks up the phone to call her and he barely gives me any help financially. This made me build up a lot of hate and anger towards this man to the point where I cannot even have a decent conversation without getting in a temper and it doesn't matter how nice he is trying to be.

To make it short, this man brings out the worst in me. I have had counselling, but whenever I talk about it, I feel like I am hating this man more and more.

Please pray for me because I become such a beast whenever I even hear this man's name. I hope your fatherly advice can help me. I would hate for my child to grow up seeing her parents not getting along.

Angry Mother, Grand Cayman, Cayman Islands

Dear Angry Mother,

Am I to understand that your anger towards this man is: 1. His failure to support his child financially 2. Lack of interest in her general welfare? You are aware that you can take this man to court and force him to pay child support. You cannot compel him to show more interest in her. You can only encourage him to do so.

I believe there are deeper issues between you and this man. I don't believe these issues have anything to do with the child. I therefore urge you to deal with them. You can begin by learning to forgive and putting the past behind you. Read your Bible and pray everyday. If you pray for someone you cannot hate him/her.