Dear Pastor,

I have a woman who loves me very much and gives me sex all the time and treats me well. She and I are to tie the knot very soon, but I am insecure about our fate as there is one thing that she doesn't know about me and that is that I am ugly, very ugly. She has poor eyesight and is about to do corrective vision surgery and I'm afraid that when she gets her vision back, she will leave me.

What should I do?

J.S., Maryland, USA

Dear J.S.,

You have not been honest with this young woman. You know you are not handsome. You describe yourself as 'very ugly'. You should have told her that you are not pleasant to look at.

You used her. I am glad that she will be doing corrective vision surgery. May the Lord help her to see clearly again. And I hope that when she sees you, she will not have a heart attack. If she leaves you, you would have caused her to do so because you did not speak the truth about yourself.

Pastor