Around the sixth month of my pregnancy, I had a conversation with him about purchasing a house together, but he was very hesitant. I later found out that he had been involved in a relationship for four years and also had purchased a house with that person. When I brought it to his attention he told me he only wanted me to have his baby because she is unable to have kids. He said he loves me and wants to keep me along with her. Of course I left, after doing so I had my baby and he is now living with her. Within two months I found out that he filed a lawsuit against me for custody. He now has visitation, but everytime he comes around the hurt and hatred resurface. I find it hard to trust people and I have become a different person since. He rudely brags about what he did to me whenever I see him and he even admits that he did this because he really needed a child. Even though it has only been a year, I find it hard to move on. I feel so worthless and it has become so difficult to concentrate on furthering my studies. Sometimes I feel suicidal. I cannot even play with my child or love him the way I should.

Can you please help me or give me your advice?

. L., Florida, USA

Dear L.L.,

Learn to love your son with all your being. Bear in mind that he is not to be blamed for what has happened between his father and you. Therefore, he shouldn't be punished.

The Bible says that God will severely punish anyone who ill-treats a child. So, do your best to take care of the child. Consider him as a gift from God. You may not get another. But even if you do, every child is special.

I suggest that you make an appointment to see a psychologist. You do need help.

Concerning the child's father, wish him well. God is not dead, he will judge him. He is the only righteous judge. Leave him to God.