Dear Pastor,

I have been a regular reader of your column and listener of your radio programme. I am having a problem but I am positive you will give me your positive advice. I have been in a relationship with a guy for the past two years. I am 18, in college, and he is 27 and working. I don't have to depend on him for anything, except sexual favours, and I honestly feel secure around him. He has four children and I have none. He got one of his children's mother pregnant again. She was living with him on a temporary basis. Because of family issues she had to move back in with him. I was okay with that because I am not selfish and, if I was her, I would want my babyfather to support me in my times of troubles, even if we weren't in a relationship gain.

I honestly love this man. I am not ugly because I have guys who are dying to be with me, but I can't seem to gain the power and strength to leave him. Could you, please, tell me what to do? I am on the edge of going crazy. Keep up the good work. I think you're an angel in disguise.

K. W., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear K. W.,

This man gave his children's mother a place to live. She gave him sex and he got her pregnant again. It is likely that she will have to live at his house because she is carrying his child. How could he ask her to leave when she has nowhere to go and he has the space to accommodate the children and herself?

Do you really want a man, who has five children and their mothers are alive? Do you think you can handle the stress?

By the way, you are 18. How many children would you like to have? Say, two by this same man. That would bring his number of children to seven. In today's Jamaica, he would have to be earning a lot of money to support all these children.

Daughter, stop dating this man. You love him and you enjoy the sex, et cetera, But don't go out with him anymore. Believe me, you will get hurt.

Pastor