The Jamaica Star :: Tell Me Pastor :: In love with my brother's friend

Dear Pastor,

I am an 18-year-old Jamaican who is now living in America.

I've been here for quite a while now and I'm in a difficult situation where my brother's friend and I have been hanging out a lot behind my brother's back. I cannot tell my brother is because I'm his favourite little sister and I know he is going to be very disappointed. Since I moved to America, my brother's friend and I happened to like each other's company so we started going out.

One night I was home alone and he called me and asked if he could come over and I didn't see any problem with that. I said yes. We started chilling out, at the time it was very cold so we started to sit very close to each other and he put his hand around me. I felt so comfortable. Now the next thing I knew we started kissing, but I pushed him off me and then we called it a night.

That kiss

After he left, I kept thinking about that kiss and the way he touched me. I think I want to be with him, but I know that if I start dating my brother's friend, my brother would get very upset because they treat each other as cousins and it might cause problems.

Please, help me.

S.C., New York, USA

Dear S.C.,

I suggest that you inform your brother that his friend likes you and that you like him too. And tell him you would like to know how he feels about such a relationship. Ask him if he would encourage you to become intimate with him.

This man is a friend of your brother, so he would know whether or not he is a good guy, or a womaniser. So don't hide anything from your brother. And please, don't invite him to your house when you are alone.

Pastor