Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old woman, who is very confused. I became engaged in January of last year, but my fiancée lives in Jamaica. We have been keeping contact by phone and visits. I left Jamaica in April of the same year. Before leaving, we had unprotected sex for the first time. I am back in America and lately I felt the need to get tested. When getting tested I found out that I have chlamydia. I know he gave it to me because I haven't had sex since then.

Before we had unprotected sex, he told me that he had sex with two women without a condom. I asked him if he got tested and he said yes. When I asked him if he was ever tested for STDs, other than HIV, he said yes. But when I asked him if he knew what chlamydia was, he said he didn't know. He will be coming to the USA soon and when he comes we are going to get tested together.

Pastor, if he tests positive should I still continue our relationship, because he didn't know what it was in the first place or should I just break up with him?

V. W., California, USA

Dear V. W.,

When your fiancée told you that he had unprotected sex with two women, you should have insisted that he used the condom. You knew better. If couples insist that they are going to have sex, the condom should be used.

The situation could have been worst. He passed on chlamydia to you. He must stop playing around. See to it that he is tested when he visits Canada. Try to help him.

Pastor