Dear Pastor,

I'm a 22-year-old female dating two men and having feelings for the both of them. One is 22 and the other 28. The 22-year-old one acts much older than the 28-year-old, but the 28-year-old gives me much better sex. He's really good. When it comes down to that part the 22-year-old is still learning, but he's really nice and knows what he wants in life.

I really don't know what to do. They don't know that I'm talking to the both of them and I don't want them to find out. This has been going on for four months. I met them both around the same time. Both of them are nice men, but I really don't know which one to choose.

Pastor, please, help me and let me know what to do because right now I really don't know what to do.

T.M, Toronto Canada

Dear T. M.,

I could only encourage you to go with one man. You are so easy to get. These guys have only known you for only 4 months and already both of them are having sex with you. That is nothing to be proud about. Which one would you drop? That decision is solely yours.

You are very much on the wrong road because you believe a good relationship is based on sex. That is why you mentioned which guy is better in bed. What do you really want out of life? Think about that. It is not difficult for a girl to find a man. They are all about. But it is difficult for her to find a good husband. What are you seeking? Is it a sex partner or a husband?

Pastor