Dear Pastor,

I am an 18-year-old student from England. I seem to have a thing for Jamaican men. I don't know why I think they are charming. Anyway, I met a Jamaican guy last year and we started going out. Three months after dating, I got pregnant. I was very happy so we decided to get married. We got married this march and we had a lovely baby boy. My husband decided that he didn't want to work. He said he's not working for anyone, so he started selling drugs and staying out all night. I have had a lot of women and young girls telling me they have slept with my husband.

STI

A couple of weeks ago, I found out he gave me an STI. I was so upset when the doctors told me I was a lucky girl and it could have been worse. My friends and family told me to leave this man and send him back to Jamaica. I don't know what to do as I am trying to sort out his stay. My mum said I should divorce him and send him back. I don't know what to do as I have a baby for him. But everyone said it is best for me and the child if we get rid of him.

Please, help me, pastor as I don't know what to do.

C. H., Brixton, England

Dear C. H.,

This man could save himself if he would stop doing drugs and get himself a job. Perhaps he has the get rich quick mentality.

The police may not just come for him, but for you also. They may believe that you are involved with drugs too. It is just a matter of time before he finds himself in prison.

Ask folks to warn and counsel him. If he is caught and sent to Jamaica, he would not be able to blame you.

Pastor