Dear Pastor,

I have some issues I need you to help me with. I am currently in a relationship with my babyfather for five years and going, but he's always cheating and I always find out. Now he's travelling a lot. I've always given him second chances and try to move on, but for some reason I keep on having flash backs.

I need to move on, but I can't. I used to have so much love for him and now it's like I never did. There's no more trust. I tried to put things behind me, but it's not working out.

Now I'm cheating on him, but I'm more cautious. I don't get it. Why a man should cheat and still be a man, but a woman can't and still be a woman.

Pastor, I need your advice on what to do because as I see it there's no me and him anymore. I'm fed up.

J. S., USA

Dear J. S.,

You have lost interest in your babyfather. You claim that he is a cheater. But now you are cheating too.

You want out. Why not go first to see a family counsellor? If you are not sure whether you should stay in the relationship after seeing the counsellor, you should be able to decide what to do.

Pastor