Dear Pastor,

I recently met a woman on my most recent trip to Jamaica. I am also a Jamaican who grew up in the States. This woman does not have a visa to visit the States. I recently found out that black American men have come down to Jamaica to see, and romance her in hotels on the north coast.

Very disappointed

I am very disappointed. She lives in Kingston. Although all this happened in the past, I am now very reluctant to move the relationship to another level, because I think a woman living in Jamaica has a choice of Jamaican lovers down there without having black American men coming down to visit her.

Here in New York most Jamaicans do not accept that kind of behaviour. Most Jamaicans here look down on Jamaican women who have been involved with American men, especially if that involvement happened in Jamaica. I now feel myself pulling away from this woman, because I feel she has stepped to a lower level.

Pastor, what is your opinion on this kind of behaviour?

D.B., New York, USA

Dear D.B.,

You don't like American black men coming to Jamaica and marrying Jamaican women. What rubbish! Get real. I did not expect to hear such nonsense from a Jamaican man in these modern days.

If this young woman you met is behaving as a prostitute, you will have to talk to her about that.

But to be against Jamaican women having American black men as lovers is backward thinking.

Pastor