Dear Pastor,

I met a guy in Jamaica, but he lives in Canada. While he was in Jamaica we started a relationship. He was here for about two months. During that time, he tried to get me pregnant. About three days before he left, I found out that I was pregnant. The day before he went away, I told him that I was pregnant and he was excited. Anyway, on the day of his departure, I was to spend the day with him. Instead I went to the doctor to get an abortion. While I was on the bed at the doctor's office I saw the doctor heading towards me with a long needle. That was it; I said no. I'm not doing it. During the day, the guy called me 28 times and I never answered. Then I called him an hour before his flight and told him that I did an abortion.

Ectopic Pregnancy.

About two weeks after I called him, I explained to him what happened and the truth is that I am still pregnant. A month went by and I found out from the doctor that I was experiencing an ectopic pregnancy. I called him a day before I was admitted in the hospital. For two weeks he didn't call. I was the one who had to call him. I asked him for money to buy medications. He told me yes. I never received it until about three weeks before his return to Jamaica.

On his return, he wanted to have sex. I repeatedly told him no. He got upset saying that it was time for me to go home. He said it was obvious that I was not going to forgive him so I could just move on with my life and he would do the same.

Can I have your opinion please, pastor.

T. D., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear T. D.,

You didn't know this man very well and yet you were with him for two months having unprotected sex with him. How can you agree to become pregnant by a man you knew for a few weeks? That was not smart.

Pastor