Dear Pastor,

I am a born-again Christian and my husband is a very prominent leader in the church. I have three wonderful kids. During my last two pregnancies, my husband told me that the children aren't his and that hurt me so badly and is still hurting me right now. How do I overcome that hurt? I am not a runaround person and I love my husband very much. So often people always admire us as a couple, but they would never know the pain he has caused me. He does things like a man who is out there in the world. I told him I need a divorce because I cannot put up with his crap anymore and he still sticks around.

What do you think, pastor?

S.B., Cayman Islands

Dear S.B.,

I wonder why your husband told you that he is not the father of your children. Could it be that both of you had a fuss and he just wanted to say something to hurt you, so he told you that he is not the father of the children?

You know that he is the children's father, so challenge him. If he has doubts, let him do paternity tests and settle the matter.

Pastor