Dear Pastor,

I am a 17-year-old girl and I have a problem. I have been dating a 21-year-old guy for about a year and a half. The problem is that whenever we don't have sex for a while, he is always accusing me of having sex with someone else and I am not seeing anybody else. He said how he left my vagina is not how he came back and saw it. He said my vagina is slack and it shouldn't be.

Pastor, what should I do? Could you give me some advice about how to keep my vagina tight?

K.W., St James, Jamaica

Dear K.W.,

This man is so silly. It is only foolish men who talk such nonsense. Poor fool. You know that you have not been having sex with anybody else. So don't allow this ignorant man to depress you. There are things a woman can do to tighten up, but I won't mention them here. And girls don't do such exercises unless they have given birth.

Speaking frankly, you should leave this guy because he doesn't trust you. I could say much more, but I'd rather not.

Pastor