Dear Pastor,

I have been with my boyfriend who is now my child's father for seven years. I love him with all my heart, but the thing is in 2005, I cheated on him. I regret doing it. That's why I stopped talking to the other guy. Everything faded until I conceived my child and everyone starts to tell my boyfriend that he is not the father of my child and the other guy is. I admitted to him that I cheated and I wanted him to forgive me. He, on the other hand, cheated on me over 12 times and I forgave him. We had to do a DNA and it proved he was the father.

Now, we have decided to stay together, but while I was at his house he went to the movies with someone else. I found out and confronted him. He said he didn't care and anything that I wanted to do, I should do. But the thing is he and that girl are not together. Every time we put this behind us, people keep on reminding him about me and he gets upset and says he wanted a nice girl not a 'sketel' or a whore.

Pastor, should I stay with him and work it out or should I leave?

J., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear J.,

If this man has forgiven you, then he should not listen to what people say and he shouldn't tell you that he doesn't care what you do. Love, the Bible says, cover a multitude of sin. People make mistakes, but if they are determined to forgive each other, the relationships can work. Don't nag your child's father. Pray that God will keep both of you together. Take care of the baby and don't neglect to take care of yourself.

Pastor