Dear Pastor,

I am a 21-year-old woman who is dating someone who is not really mine. We have been dating for a year. He has always been a gentleman to me. But the problem is he is living with a lady. At times I can't stand the fact that he lives with her even though he told me from the very beginning. And yes, I accepted it long enough, but there comes a time when a woman needs attention. And I can't get it because he has to run home to Miss Right. I am a girl who loves my comfort, and when I can't get it I am miserable. I am also miserable because of him living with another woman.

So scared

I tried not to love him, but then it took its path in the centre of our relationship and I am so scared. I got hurt once and I am trying to avoid another trauma in my life.

Pastor, what should I do? Should I let go or keep it going? I am confused. I don't know what to do right now. I'm really scared.

D. N., St Thomas, Jamaica

Dear D. N.,

You cannot say that this man did not tell you up front that he is living with another woman. You agreed to go into the relationship with your eyes wide open. You realise now that it can't work because you need a man around you 24/7.

I suggest therefore that you swallow the bitter pill and end this relationship. This man is not leaving his honey at home. She has not done him any wrong.

You are not sweeter than what he is getting at home. So, find yourself another man.

Pastor