Dear Pastor,

Ever since I was in the fourth grade, I remember one of a pair of twins telling me that he liked me, but I did not respond until I was in the seventh grade. I told the one that I was attracted to how much I liked him, but he said he does not like me. The problem is I don't remember which one liked me. Anyway, the one I like is in Jamaica and I am in America. I know that I love him. I am currently in the 10th grade and I can't get over him.

What should I do? I am trying to get over him and move on but I can't because sometimes he used to be nice to me and sometimes he was mean. I never stopped remembering how warm he felt when I hugged him. I also remember grand market night, the way he looked at me and how his friends told me that they thought he liked me. But, he does not show that he likes me. I know I am too young for this but, please, give me some good advice.

S., Florida, USA

Dear S.,

Girls your age experience these types of infatuation. It is quite normal. It is the kind of kid's stuff that girls should talk to their parents about and not hide their feelings or try to snoop around or find means to meet with the boys they like.

I want you to understand that you are a sexual being and, as you go through different stages of life, your body will change and you will attract boys and you will be attracted to them. These are the days when you need guidance, so talk to your parents and if you are afraid to do so, talk to your guidance counsellor at school or your youth pastor at church.

The guy in Jamaica is struggling as he grows up too. He probably likes you but doesn't know how to handle the situation. So, both of you should just cool it and concentrate on your lessons. Time will tell whether what you are feeling is true love.

Pastor