I just want to thank you for all the good advice that you give to people. I am 25 years old and I am a regular reader of your column. I have a problem and I need your help. I'm with my husband for six years and married for four years. We have a son together. The problem began last year January when my husband went to Jamaica. He came back with a STD (sexually transmitted disease). I didn't catch it and I thank God. He said that he was drunk and his cousin hooked him up with a girl and they had sex together but he said that he wore a condom and it burst and that was when he stopped having sex with the girl. I don't believe him, but we worked it out.

Naked pictures

The next problem is I was cleaning out his draw and saw some naked pictures with his friend's girlfriend in a book. I asked him about it and he said that she gave it to him to keep because she doesn't want her boyfriend to see them. But, pastor, the pictures were taken at his work. I asked him and he said that she came to his work to rent a room with a man and he didn't say anything to his friend because he was minding his own business. I didn't believe him again, but we worked it out.

The next problem is we attend the same school, but we are not in the same class. The problem is a girl in his class is on his page, but I don't have any problem with that because he has to talk to people in his class, but he has her number and is calling her. They don't talk in class because my friend is in the same class with them, but they talk on the phone.

It is only two weeks that we have started attending the school. I wonder what they are talking about everyday and they don't talk in class. I was mad about it and he said they are just friends and she is always talking about her son.

Pastor, he is a good man. I prayed for a good man like him and God sent him my way, but I am on the edge with him and his lying. Please, help me. I need your help.

K.D., Toronto, Canada

Dear K.D.,

Your husband lies a lot, and he is not good at it at all. Does he really expect you to believe these lies? He is a careless man. It would help the relationship if he would admit that he has been playing around. Then both of you can take steps in getting help to strengthen your relationship. Insist that both of you go and see a counsellor.

Pastor.