Keep up the good work. I am a regular reader and I respect the advice you give. I am living in the United States. A few months ago, I met a guy from Jamaica online. We used to talk for hours at a time. After a few months, I fell in love with him. I was married at the time. I am now divorced because my husband found out about him. The problem is I am still in love with my ex-husband and I get confused. At times I feel like just telling the guy in Jamaica that it's over, but I feel I owe him for leading him on all these months.

The guy in Jamaica is a few years younger than I am and my fear is that one day he will leave me for a younger woman. He said no, but I do not believe him. He reminds me of how much he loves me on a daily basis. I am in love with him too.

Do you think the distance is why I feel like going back to my ex-husband? Please help me. I await your fatherly advice.

S.B., USA

Dear S.B.,

You destroyed your marriage by getting involved with a man online. You claim to still be in love with your ex husband, and even if you were to end the relationship with the Jamaican man, your husband may not take you back. He may never trust you again. And most men would agree with him.

You know what you are doing. You made this young man believe that you love him and one day both of you will be living together as husband and wife.

The fear that you have is real. Many older women have lost their men to younger women. But true love often prevents that from happening. I doubt that the relationship you are having with the Jamaican man is true love.

Why don't you talk to your ex -husband and tell him how you feel and ask him if he would consider taking you back.

Pastor