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Dear Pastor,

I am a 24-year-old man who is very frustrated. I have known a girl for eight years and always wanted to be her boyfriend, but she did not show any interest in me. She went away for three years and returned with a child. All of a sudden she wants to go out. She keeps asking for money to help support her child. She is now very open. This girl came to my house and we had sex. To my surprise it wasn't what I expected and now I can't get her off my back. I am no longer interested and I want her to stop sending me "please call me" text messages.

Pastor, I need your help.

C. D., Jamaica

Dear C. D.,

You got what you wanted. For eight years you wanted this young woman. Unfortunately you got her after she had a child by another man. You were happy to have her, but the financial burden is heavy. So she has become a problem to you.

You had sex recently with her and you were disappointed. Did you forget that she is not a virgin? What were you expecting? Anyway, I suggest that you tell this young woman the truth. You should not give her the impression that all is well between you. Be a real man and be gracious as you bring this relationship to an end.

Pastor