I have a friend who is 19 years old. She has been involved with the same guy for two years. They have had their ups and downs. Lately, she has been seeing two other guys who are much older. I am very worried that this is affecting her work and home life. At work, if she is talking to one of the men she has to be on the lookout for the others. The worst part of this situation is that all of the men love her.

How can she choose or what should she do?

C.F., St. Ann, Jamaica

Dear C.F.,

What a way your friend is popular. If she has to be looking out to see whether another of her men is coming while she is on the telephone, are you saying these men are working at the same business place? And how do you know so much about your friend's business? Are you involved with one of these men, or do you need one of these men? Are these men 'big spenders', and what are they seeing in this girl?

If she is your friend as you say, you should be able to talk to her without condemning her. You claim that two of these men are much older. Generally speaking, when a girl is having a sexual relationship with an older man she is seeking money and security. What is this girl seeking? I hope you will be able to convince her that she should keep only one man.

Pastor