I am a woman attending school in the United States. I was born in America but moved to Jamaica around the age of 11. I am currently in America but still in love with a guy from Jamaica. He's been there for me since we met. I will soon be 17 years old. We've been together since I was 11 years old. January will make it three years since I have not seen him. We met when I was 10 years old and he was the one who took my virginity on my 11th birthday.

Now, he behaves as if he doesn't want to talk with me when I call him. He says he loves me but I don't know for sure what he wants. We have a lot of history together. He told me that since I've been in America, he met and fell in love with a girl, who got pregnant for him but aborted the baby. He says they are no longer on speaking terms and that it was a 'one-time thing'.

The situation is stressing me out. I don't want to give up on him because things are hard right now and it would make me seem like a bad person if I do. I do not know what to do. I love this guy.

Please tell me, Pastor, what to do?

S.W., New York, USA

Dear S.W.,

You lost your virginity at the age of 11? I wonder how old this man was? You were just a child, not even a teenager. And, now you feel that you are still in love with him. He's not showing much interest in you. But, you believe that he loves you. Under the law, the man raped you. You should not see him as a lover.

You have not seen him in three years and he told you what happened with another girl. You would be wise to concentrate on your schoolwork and to get a good career. And, don't put your heart and soul on this young man.

Pastor