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Dear Pastor,

I am 24 years old and I live in the USA. My problem is that even though I am a handsome man, I am still a virgin, and it's bothering me. The crazy thing is that I have had tons of girlfriends but I would always break up with them when it's time to have sex, because of my insecurity about the size of my penis.

Most of the girls I have been with think I am a player, and are even convinced that I have done it with a lot of girls; and all my male friends think so too. It has got to the point where I don't want to get involved with a girl because I believe she will think that I am gay since I am still a virgin.

Pastor, I really need your help.

J.J., Philadelphia, USA

Dear J.J.,

You did not mention the size of your penis, and it could be that you are worrying unnecessarily. It is obvious from your letter that you suffer from low self-esteem, even though you have so many friends around you. Nevertheless, you know yourself and what you are carrying around in your pants.

Perhaps what you should do is go to a doctor and have him/her examine you and tell you whether you have enough for a lovely lady who may become your wife.

I know there are cases where men have been able to make their penises larger. It is costly, but I know it can be done. Your doctor would be able to tell you whether you would need such an operation. On the other hand, there are sexual aids that a man can use these days to help him 'do his business'.

All hope is not lost

What I am trying to say to you, my brother, is that all hope is not lost. You have one good thing going for you and that is, you're still a virgin. So if you were to meet a woman and you fall in love with her, she may be tickled to know that she is going to marry a man who has not played around.

I wish you well. Go check yourself out.

Pastor