I started university in January this year. This is my second semester. I met a guy who is from a different Caribbean country. We became friends at the beginning of that semester.this semester, we stepped it up a notch, but still haven't crossed the line of sex. I don't want to cross that line with him because he has a babymother.

Crossing the line

We really enjoy each others company. We even try to take the same courses together. I really like him and he says he really likes me too. But, how does one remain close friends while doing heavy petting and without crossing the line? How do I even try to cross that line knowing, at the end of it all, he will return home to his girl and child?

S.B., New York, USA

Dear S.B.,

You can make the decision to play around. But you do so at your own peril. Because one day the line will be crossed. And sometimes when a girl crosses the line, she asks herself the question: how did this happen to me? But then it is too late. Heavy petty can lead to sex. And this guy is taking his time with you. He is walking softly as a pussycat. But one day your underwear will be off and he'll get you to the stage where you turn to butter. And I want to remind you, that it is unwise to 'put butter in puss mouth'.

You cannot say that you don't know that he has his child's mother at home and the possibility is real that he will go back to her. So, don't be foolish. If you don't want to get caught and used, end the relationship with this man. And do so now. You have been warned.

Pastor