Good day to you. This is my first time writing. I am a young Christian woman with a problem. I met a young man a year ago and we fell in love. He was a Christian. We started to have sex shortly afterwards and he would come to my house to be with me. He stopped coming to my house when people began to talk about us and our relationship. He would call me every day and night just to talk. He asked me numerous times to visit him at his house, but I was afraid to do so.

I decided to go back to church and told him of my intention. I have begun to do so, but can't seem to get over him. I really love him. I dreamt of him being with another woman and told him about my dream. He confirmed that he was with someone else and that I was the one who had pushed him to be with her. He told me he did not love her as he loved me. And, so, we decided to put the matter behind us and resume our relationship.

Makes me happy

I want to serve the Lord, but I also love this man. He is not a rich person, but I told him that I love him for who he is and not what he has. He makes me happy when I am around him. I feel comfortable with him and have never felt this way about any other man. I am afraid of getting hurt and losing him. I don't know what to do. Can you help? God bless you.

D.H., St Mary, Jamaica

Dear D.H.,

I could only encourage both of you to get married if you are in love and if you believe that both of you can make life together. If you would get married, you won't have to hide or sneak around to be together. So, if the guy is really, really serious about you, both of you should go and discuss the matter with your pastor and go through premarital counselling and get married.

Pastor