Here is a lesson in life I want to share. I was with a Jamaican man for 19 years and we have two sons together. For starters, when I met this man, he told me he was not involved with anyone. I later found out this was not true. The truth is, he never stopped his involvement with the woman the entire time we were together.

These are advice for all my sisters out there on some signs you need to look for to know if your man is cheating. A woman who calls him and is constantly arguing with him; she calls him then hangs up, and/or curses him out; he says he's going to look for his kids after 8 p.m. He did the same things with me and I began to realise why this woman got so angry with him. He never left her alone!

Here is another sisterly advice to women: when you confirm that your man is cheating on you, respectfully bow out... walk out of the relationship with your dignity and self-esteem, knowing that you are worth more. Don't ignore your instincts. If a man truly loves you, there are certain things he won't do and you won't have to question his love as it should not hurt and is not like a thorn in your side.

I realise that I wasted 19 years of my life on this man. I am not a bitter woman seeking revenge. I just would like to tell other women to love themselves first, know themselves first. And when they do, they will not allow anyone to enter their life and treat them with disrespect. Follow your heart. And when something doesn't seem right, ask yourself: "Am I worth more or less than what I am receiving?" Ladies, I pray that you will think more. Respect to all my queens.

H.R., North Carolina, USA

Dear H.R.,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I am glad that you are not bitter.

Pastor