I have been married for over 12 years now. My husband cheated on me. We have reconciled but I still do not trust him. My problem was he did not end the relationship on his own, he was coerced.

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What I would like to know is what is the difference between email and telephone conversations. He was talking to this woman and I was not comfortable with the nature of their relationship. It was similar to the cheating one and it was rumoured by the other woman that he was also involved with this other woman.

To appease me, he told her that he would not call her anymore but he still emailed her. Am I reading too much into this? He is very secretive and hides his email. If I am coming, he switches pages.

I need your fatherly advice.

D. B., South Caroline, USA

Dear D. B.,

Evidently your husband has not stopped cheating and he is behaving as if you are not intelligent but you are not a fool. You figured out what is going on. However, if you believe that there is still a future between both of you, you should insist to see a family counsellor. He seems to want to do his own thing. If that is what he is determined to do, you should be prepared to put your case in the hands of a lawyer so that you are not left out in the cold when he leaves you.

Pastor