Dear Pastor,

I read your letters a lot and I have to say I like the advice that you have given your readers. I have been living in Canada for the past 22 years and as far as I can remember, I have been taking care of myself. I am now 34 years old and a single mother with three children.

I have been abused by family members and my mother's ex-husband. I was married for 10 years and my husband was every abusive. In 2003, he was finally charged for trying to kill me. Since then, I have not made contact with him. He makes child support payments monthly.

Bad face

The problem that I am having is that I cannot keep a relationship. Things will start off well, but after a few months my partner will start to show me bad face. I will ask what the problem and they will say 'nothing' but the behaviour continuesand I stophaving feelings for that person.

Pastor, please, tell me what's my problem. I need your advice.

Problems, Canada

Dear Problems,

You have not said enough for me to even begin to determine why you can't keep a man. However, I can speculate.

You said that you were abused by relatives and your mother's ex-husband. Perhaps you find it difficult to trust men and you constantly express that to men. Perhaps you are always saying that men are no good and you call them dogs. So, men will listen to you, go to bed with you but after a while pull away from you, because your attitude is not very good.

Pastor