Congratulations on the excellent service you have provided over the years. I met my boyfriend in a Caribbean island nine months ago. During that time, he told me straight up that he had a babymother, but they weren't on good terms. Months after, I left him and came back to Jamaica to start my new term at school.

When he came to Jamaica, we started to link-up from time to time. He told me that he had left the mother of his child, for good, because he wanted to be with me. He introduced me to his family and I would always spend every weekend break with him. We are now planning to live together.

Nagging problem

The problem is that his babymother will not leave us alone. She calls me often and tells me to leave her man alone. She calls me all sorts of names. A few months ago I was at his parents' house and she came there wanting to fight me for 'her man'.

Pastor, I am confused at times because it seems as if he is still seeing her behind my back. Whenever she calls me is when he is not around and she wants to know where he is. Whenever I confront him, he convinces me that he is not with her but deep down I know that it is a lie.

Pastor, what can I do?

S.S., St Ann

Dear S.S.,

I suggest that you dump this guy. You know that he is lying. You shouldn't be fighting over him. If you are not careful, his child's mother might give you a fine piece of beating. Don't go back to his home at all. Find somewhere else to go when you are on break from school. The guy is a user. Even a blind person can see that.

Pastor