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Dear Pastor,

I always seem to fall in love with the wrong women, another man's girl. I recently fell in love with a married woman. So far she is the best sex partner I have had in my life. She is willing to go the extra mile and do whatever I ask.

We have been together for seven years now. And during this time, I found out that she has been seeing three other men besides me. I questioned her about these guys to which she denied her involvement with any of them. I do love being with her. When she is around I am happy and, of course, when she is not, I am sad. I have tried to get her out of my heart, mind and soul. On a sad day, just one phone call from her will brighten my day.

I had known from the beginning that she could never be mine. I am losing my mind. I believe that I am fighting a losing battle. I am very jealous and she knows that. I am tired of her lies. It is time for a new beginning. I have done a lot for her. I have given her my life savings and my brother's money too. However, she has however paid back some. I am now broke and my brother wants his money but I don't have it to give him.

You can't help who you fall in love with and who falls in love with you. I am now dating her friend who lives in Westmoreland. The friend does not know about us but I cannot hide my jealousy when I see her around other guys, so my girlfriend might soon find out the truth.

How do you suggest I 'cool off' my jealousy and move on with my life because my heart is tired of this pain?

J., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear J.,

May I suggest that you make an appointment to go and see a psychologist for professional help. I am very serious about what I am saying to you. Because you are not behaving as a man who is very conscious of what you are doing. How can a man be jealous over another man's wife? What has made you give this woman your whole life savings? Why would you give this woman your brother's money? Man, to put it plainly, perhaps you are "not righted." You need therapy.

This woman has eaten you out and now you are going with her friend. What's wrong with you? Tell this married woman the relationship is over. If you don't, the day will come when you will walk and talk to yourself and you will come down to nothing. Stay away from her. In fact, you should give every woman a break until you have received help from a psychologist. Don't call this woman, don't go out with her and don't give her any money.

Pastor