Dear Counsellor:

My father is infected with AIDS and he is living at my house. I don't think I can care for him enough at home and it is not because I am scared, but I want him to get the best care. Can you give me the address of somewhere I can take him? Shouldn't he be hospitalised?

Caring Daughter

Dear Caring Daughter

One of the best places for people with AIDS, the disease caused by HIV, to be cared for is at home, surrounded by the people who love them. Many people living with AIDS can lead an active life for long periods of time. Most of the time, people with AIDS do not need to be hospitalised. Being at home is often less expensive, more comfortable, more familiar, and gives them more control of their life. In fact, people with AIDS-related illnesses often get better faster and with less discomfort at home with the help of their friends and loved ones.

Serious responsibility

You should get regular updates from your father's health care providers on what kind of care is needed. Many times what is needed is not medical care, but help with normal chores of life. Also remember that AIDS causes stress on both the person who is sick and on you as you care for him/her. Caring for someone with AIDS is a serious responsibility. You will have to work with your father to decide what needs to be done, how much you can do, and when you need to get additional help. But by rising to the challenges of caring for your father who is living with AIDS, you can share emotionally satisfying experiences, even joy. You can also find new strengths within yourself. But you need to take care of yourself as well as your father.

Dear Counsellor:

What are some of the early symptoms of HIV infection? Can a person transmit HIV if they are not showing symptoms?

M. G.

Dear M.G.

Many people who are infected with HIV the virus that causes AIDS have no symptoms at all, and may not even know that they have the virus. Some persons may develop mild, temporary flu-like symptoms that disappear after a few days or weeks following infection. It is important for you to know that there are no specific symptoms for HIV or AIDS and a diagnosis of HIV can only be made through the HIV antibody test.

All persons with HIV infection, whether or not they have symptoms, can transmit HIV to others through sex (oral, vaginal and anal) or through infected blood. Women infected with HIV can also transmit the virus to their babies during pregnancy or through birth. Remember that you cannot tell by how the person looks, and that HIV can be prevented if you use a condom every time you have sex.

For more information on condom use, HIV/AIDS or other sexually transmitted infections call the AIDS/STD Helpline at 967-3830, 967-3764 or toll free at 1888-991-4444 or write AIDS Affairs, c\o the Star, 7 North Street, Kingston.