Dear Pastor,

I hope God continues to bless you. Continue doing your good work.

I need your help urgently. I am 24 years old and my boyfriend is 29. We have been together for seven years. We have been living together for the past two years. We have a son together and he will be one year old in a couple of months. The relationship between my boyfriend and me was going well, until the baby came. He started behaving differently toward me. He started staying out late at nights and whenever I happen to call his phone, he may or may not answer. When he does answer, he asks me why I am pestering him. He even goes on to say that I am trying to control his life.

Pastor, I am not trying to control him, I just get very concerned when I don't see him come home. If his phone rings, he speaks to the person on the phone much better than how he would speak to me. He is very disrespectful toward me. He has brought pictures of women into my home. Nothing in the house belongs to him. I have worked hard to buy whatever one may see in my home.

He is never at home. If, by chance, he is there, he is always sleeping. He helps with nothing around the house. I have reached my limit with him and I told him to leave. He has however stated that he is not leaving until I give him back everything that he has given me. I cannot take it anymore. It is killing me inside. I await your response.

N.G., Jamaica.

Dear N.G.,

This guy and you are behaving like children. You are bragging that everything in the house belongs to you. And now this guy is saying he's not leaving until you return everything he has given to you. This is not true love. True love does not make demands. It does not brag or boast about what a spouse has or does not have. True love shares.

Something has gone wrong in the relationship. This man feels more comfortable staying out of the home for long hours. And when he is home there is not much communication between you. You seem eager for him to go. You are fed up. I hope it is not that you are willing for him to go because you are in love with another man.

Ask this gentleman whether he would be willing for both of you to go for counselling. Do your best to save the relationship, if you believe it can be saved.

Pastor