Dear Pastor,

I am currently going through some rough emotional constraints that are driving me nuts. I am 19 years of age and I have been dating my former high school teacher for the past two years. My problem is that, he never takes me out officially and he does not want the public to know about us.

I am currently in a fairly good job and I am planning to attend college next year. I love this guy very much because he is my mentor and he always leads me in the right path. He is not sexually compatible, but that is something I can work on.

his reputation

Pastor, I would like to know why is it that this man doesn't want the public to know about us? Is it that he is protecting his reputation as a teacher? And why is it that he never takes me out? I am planning to move on without this man. Do you think that's a wise idea?

I await your usual prompt response.

N.N. Manchester, Jamaica

Dear N.N.,

This man probably does not want the public to know that both of you are lovers because he was your school teacher. He knows that it was wrong for him to become sexually involved with you while you were in school. But you don't care; you are no longer his student. You can't understand why he does not want to go anywhere with you.

By the way, you must be very 'hot'. Perhaps it was because of your 'hotness' why he yielded to temptation and became sexually involved with you. But you say that he can't handle the 'vibes'. Girl you are really 'hot'. It seems like you want to kill the school teacher with 'it'.

doesn't make sense

Seriously, this relationship does not make sense. Tell this man that you understand that he doesn't want to be seen with you, so both of you should part in peace.

Having said the above, let me warn you to be careful. You are a young lady and you need to be careful how you live and not to allow yourself to be fooled by men. I am not saying that you should not have a boyfriend but try to get yourself a good education. Make that your number one priority. Put yourself in God's hands and ask Him to direct your path.

Pastor

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