Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and I have a major issue to share with you. Please give me your fatherly advice.

It has to do with boyfriend stress. I have been in a relationship with this guy from I started fifth form. We have been in love since. We both attend the same school. He is very hard-working and used to give me anything I asked him for. Now, he hardly gives me what I want. I love him very much and I promised him that I would not cheat on him, but he doesn't believe me.

went ahead and cheated

One day I saw him with a girl and got really jealous. I went home and deleted all his text messages and his number. I got upset and went ahead and cheated on him. I met a guy that drives a nice car. This guy left his girlfriend just to be with me. He would take me anywhere I wanted to go. Our relationship is going on strong. He told me that he loves me and he won't cheat on me but I don't believe him.

S.W., Manchester, Jamaica

Dear S.W.,

Do you mean to tell me that because you saw your boyfriend with a girl, you believe that he was cheating on you? Did you not talk to men with whom you were not intimate? Don't you think that you were very immature? How can you judge a man by just seeing him talking to another woman?

You wanted to cheat. So you cheated. The love you had for this young man is not as strong as you pretended it to be. You did not even allow this man time to explain himself. You went out with a man who drove a nice car. Therefore, it is material things that you love. He stopped giving you money, etc., so you decided to give him 'bun.' You can jump high or low and deny that it was so, but you couldn't convince me.

Before condemning others, examine your own self. I wish you well in this new relationship.

Pastor