Dear Pastor,

How is your day? I'm a fan of your column and you give good advice. I want you to give me your advice on this situation. I have been in love with a guy for over six years. We were so very much in love, until one day in last May, on Mother's Day. We got into a fight that night so I told him it was over and he accepted it. The next day I got a phone call from one of my friends asking why we were fighting. The fight happened because he had been carrying another girl to his house and when I confronted him, he said: "It is a lie dem a tell pon mi." So I said to him, "di people not telling such a lie pon yuh, ah di truth dem a tell mi."

I forgave him and took him back. In January I found out that he got a girl pregnant, so I confronted him and he told me the truth. He said that he was responsible for the baby and that the child is his. I told him that it was over and he told me, "No, it cannot be over." I ended up still staying with him. When my mother died, I left him and now I believe that I am over him.

Did I do the right thing, pastor? Please give me your fatherly advice.

Fighter, Kingston, Jamaica

Dear Fighter,

Perhaps you did the right thing. Evidently, this guy was not serious about the relationship both of you were having. He hasn't done anything to nourish and

protect it. So you might as well move on.

Pastor