Dear Pastor,

I have been reading your letters over and over and you have given some good advice. I must say it is so good of you to do so. I am a 26-year-old man who is very much in love with this girl. I mean I love her very much. We both live in the same community. We see each other almost every day and I know we speak to each other daily. She has told me that she loves me and, from my observation, it seems true. I also have a son who she loves very much. She has taken him as her own.

The thing is there is this guy who keeps calling her, every day and night. She told him to get a life of his own but he still calls her. This makes me very uncomfortable. He has told her that he is going to take her life if she does not have a relationship with him. Yes, we do want our relationship to work out but for me, he is a stumbling block.

Pastor, I love her with all my heart. Please tell me what to do. Should I stay with her, or should I move on with my life?

Please pray for me. I need His strength to go on.

R.G., St. Catherine, Jamaica

Dear R.G.,

Why should you move on? This young woman has not done anything wrong. Why should you dump her? The other guy likes her. He is making himself a fool and has even threatened that if she refuses to have a relationship with him, he will take her life. That is a threat and it should not be taken lightly. Therefore, it should be reported to the police. She should tell relatives and friends about the threat he has made on her life.

I suggest you continue the relationship both of you are having. Do not threaten this man. Stand with your woman and make sure you encourage her to be strong.

Pastor