Dear Pastor,

My husband hides everything from me. We've been married for five years and he has not even told me about the house he has bought recently. He bought it when I went away to visit my family. I am a Christian but I am so fed up with this situation. I truly want out of this relationship. We have a child together and I am expecting another but I am so unhappy.

He tends to look out for his brothers and sisters first; the needs of his immediate family are not of grave concern to him. He has three houses and some land yet he has us in a one-bedroom apartment. We have a baby on the way and I told him to get rid of something so we can buy a home. His response is that I must leave.

Pastor, I fear I am going to lose it and do something I will regret. I have had it. I just don't want to be married to this man anymore. I am praying about it and I hope God will sustain me until I am able to stand on my own two feet.

Please give me your advice.

A.E., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear A.E.,

The relationship between you and your husband is in deep trouble. You have not mentioned the real problem. It is not just the house that he bought recently that has caused the problem. It is much more than that. Although you are pregnant, that is not an indication that both of you are living harmoniously. Both of you don't trust each other. He wants you to leave.

I suggest that you go and see a lawyer as early as possible. Your husband shouldn't believe that he can push you out of the house and you'll leave empty-handed. The law is there to protect you.

Pastor